Living in community sounded so, um, odd. Cults do that sort of thing, you know. First you live in community, and then you drink punch and die.
-Donald Miller, Blue Like Jazz
Of course, the idea has always been there, but we have distorted it over time. What do people see when they walk into our church gatherings?
When I was in college, I had a Bible professor who gave a good analogy of the way a church should feel by pointing us to a familiar song. He was referring to the theme song from the hit TV show Cheers.
Go Ahead. Take a minute and sing the song in your head (or out loud if you dare).
Okay, here's some help:
I did hear of one church that actually used this song during their "greeting" time. Could you imagine visiting this church for the first time, walking in apprehensively, then witnessing this time of fellowship?
Don't you want to go "where everybody knows your name?"
He spent his time on earth eating with, talking with, and getting to know the outcasts and "sinners" of society. No one had to pretend to have it all together to be in his circle.
Occasionally, Jesus went to dinner at the home of a Pharisee, or "good church person." He usually went there to yell at them. In fact, I may be wrong, but the only people I remember him ever getting mad at were church people.
In Luke 7:36-50, Jesus ate at a Pharisee's house and scolded his host for looking down on a woman with a bad reputation.
In Luke 11:37-54, he ate dinner with some Pharisees and then gave them a good verbal beating about hypocrisy and hindering people from knowing God.
In Luke 14:1-14 he chastised the Pharisees over dinner because they only invited people of their class to dinner instead of feeding those who are in need.
I have to chuckle as I can picture Jesus visiting our world today, walking in on a deacons' lunch, and letting them have it before walking out and heading to the street corner to tell the prostitutes how valuable they are to God.
Would he find that we are really reaching out to the world, or would he find a bunch of socials for church women?
There is a reason that we need to get past this perfectionist thing, and it is a bigger reason than to just make us feel better.
We need to get over ourselves and stop trying to communicate to the world that we have it all together, so that the world will not think they need to have it all together to be accepted.
So we need to start by being authentic in our relationships. As Christian women, we need to be able to connect with one another without having our "comparison guard" up. We need to encourage each other, sharpen each other, and connect with each other to discuss what we are learning in authentic community.
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